I'm slightly conflicted in posting this, especially in its own new thread, but I feel it's time to try to reconnect with a lost family member - namely my biological father. With my upcoming child due in October, a missing piece feels like it needs to be found and resolved. Can anyone help in any way, whether it be through technology, organisations, experience or association? I have a couple of details that may help in my quest: His name is Andrew; the spelling of his first name, I'm unsure of. It could be Andre, Andrzej, ...? He is/was about 7-8 years older than my mother, which would make him about 62-65ish now and was an architect/draftsman/similar in Toowoomba, Cairns and the Gold Coast. He was the chief draftsman for Telecom in Toowoomba in 1978 - I was born in May of 1979. He migrated to Australia from Poland before this (possibly as a child/adolescent with a parent) and from what my mother has told me, he was very secretive; carrying around a locked briefcase everywhere he went with many of his peers very curious as to its contents. EDITED. In 1978, he left Toowoomba and moved to Cairns and at some stage, he moved to the Gold Coast. He didn't buy and develop Chevron Island as I first thought. He already owned a house (a typical Queenslander style timber house) before my mum met him. When he took mum to the Gold Coast, she wasn't allowed to go into the house, which leads me to believe that his soon to be ex-wife may have resided there. Im now suspicious that I may also have an older sibling, potentially up to 45 years old, currently. EDITED. I know this as my mother and I checked the white pages irregularly as I was growing up. Coincidentally or subconsciously, I ended up living 3 houses away from him when I was about 22/23 and I did keep an eye out for him once I realised. There was a day when I walked past his house and he (I think) was in his front yard. I wanted to do something but I was like a deer in headlights and the moment passed. I always wanted to wait until I was proud of myself and where I was in life before initiating contact. Unfortunately, in the past few years he has left that address and I cannot find a contact entry for him anymore. He remarried or potentially went back to his old wife (ruling nothing out) and I know I have at least one or two half-brothers (possibly more and a sister?) but have never met them and through many degrees of separation, I know that they are lovely blokes. They may still be living in the area. I was always very conflicted about contacting them as they don't deserve the shock of me contacting them and potentially throwing their family into disarray. They are grown up now (younger than I) and I feel they may be my last hope. It seems now I have also lost their contact details due to moving on. I raised the courage to call the number I had for an NAME RETRACTED this morning after talking 'Polish' talk last night with @ningnangnong and finding out he and @rnabokov have Polish roots. My dreams were troubled last night and I woke thinking 35 years of age is enough and I am proud of who I've become, it's now or never. I have also found out today that one of my brothers is named NAME EDITED (or a spelling variation). He is/was a Landscape Architect and at some point in the early 2000's worked for a firm at Southport. This name has been verified via multiple sources. If anyone has any suggestions or links, please let me know. I know this is an awkward post for a footy forum, but I respect the wonderful nature of many of the members here, along with their intellect, technical skills and wide-reaching affiliations. This jigsaw puzzle of a life is becoming more and more complete. There is just that one central bloody missing piece that either needs to be found or replaced to complete the image. I have very complex mixed feelings about this man, but am willing to forgive and move forward. If I think of any other details I will add to this thread. Thanks in advance, and apologies if this bored you to death :) Maybe others in the BHQ community can use this thread to find lost family, also. It's a worthy cause. EDITS: details in bold have been added or modified since finding out more concrete facts.