Soupy, you're well within your rights to feel the way you do. It's a two way street, and you seem to be the only car on the road at the moment. Play it how you want, you shouldn't feel guilty at all. The onus is on your old man, not you. You've done you're bit. Unfortunately, that's the way a lot of relationships go in life - one person goes to all the effort, and if they stop, then that's it for the relationship. When I say relationship, I mean every type - friends, family, etc. I can't compare any experience of mine to yours, but I know I've had friends where I always felt like I was the one doing all the work to keep in touch and maintain a friendship... eventually it just gets to you, and you figure if this person actually wanted you around, they'd try a bit harder. Of course, sometimes there are other things at play.