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Awesome stuff mate.

What I wanted to convey is that we all have similar thoughts and anxities. Even when we're aware of how ridiculous they are, it's a survival instinct we simply cannot shake. The fact you've taken this opportunity and shown up on your first day makes you better than a lot of others who avoided it simply to save face.

Keep at it mate and see how it all pans out.
Couldn’t say it better myself, except to say we are all so very proud of you ningers!
 

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Probably an ice addict and completely forgot the children were left in the car, but murder suggests she did it intentionally.
 

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I just had the best night at this real odd event in Toowoomba. It was fantastic; full art galley with local beer on tap and fantastic burgers and chips. It was a blockparty in an industrial estate and hopefully we see more of it here!
 
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Struggling heaps with anxiety the last week or so. Not entirely sure why tbh. There’s a few things going on in the background regarding my estranged sister and I suppose having a sick partner and baby this week, along with going back to work this week has compounded matters. Driving me a bit crazy but I’m holding it together, just.

The house is a pigsty (by my standards at least) and after almost 3 months on my back with a broken leg, the gardens and lawns look like shit (again, by my standards), and it is all really getting to me. The problem is I’ve no energy or fitness due to being laid up for so long. It is great to be back to work. I’m finding that noise, or more precisely, compounding noise sends me into an almost anxiety attack. Not sure what to do tbh. Exercise is my only answer at this point, which is difficult as I’m still in rehab with the broken leg.

This too shall pass, I suppose.
 

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Struggling heaps with anxiety the last week or so. Not entirely sure why tbh. There’s a few things going on in the background regarding my estranged sister and I suppose having a sick partner and baby this week, along with going back to work this week has compounded matters. Driving me a bit crazy but I’m holding it together, just.

The house is a pigsty (by my standards at least) and after almost 3 months on my back with a broken leg, the gardens and lawns look like shit (again, by my standards), and it is all really getting to me. The problem is I’ve no energy or fitness due to being laid up for so long. It is great to be back to work. I’m finding that noise, or more precisely, compounding noise sends me into an almost anxiety attack. Not sure what to do tbh. Exercise is my only answer at this point, which is difficult as I’m still in rehab with the broken leg.

This too shall pass, I suppose.
I’m sorry to hear this mate. The best advice I can give you is when you feel like you are clinging to a cliff face by your fingertips look down and you will see that you have a really solid ledge close by under you. You have a great family and a good life. Now take a deep breath and look up for your next hand hold. It will be ok. Trust yourself.
 

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I’m sorry to hear this mate. The best advice I can give you is when you feel like you are clinging to a cliff face by your fingertips look down and you will see that you have a really solid ledge close by under you. You have a great family and a good life. Now take a deep breath and look up for your next hand hold. It will be ok. Trust yourself.
Thanks mate. That’s really great advice.
 

Sirlee oldman

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Thanks mate. That’s really great advice.
I have been outside for a pipe since then and realised it wasn’t very practical advice though. So my practical advice would be to spend 20 minutes running around doing some housework to knock things back in shape a bit and give you a really visual cue that you’re on the way up again.
 

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I have been outside for a pipe since then and realised it wasn’t very practical advice though. So my practical advice would be to spend 20 minutes running around doing some housework to knock things back in shape a bit and give you a really visual cue that you’re on the way up again.
Yeah, that’s exactly what I need to do. I put up a couple of 8x4 boards in my garage today to organise vertical storage for my tools and gardening equipment, getting them off benches and the garage floor. It was a good effort and I enjoyed the task but I have to complete it. Like you say, seeing immediate progress helps heaps. Just need to push past the lack of motivation. Might need a few pipes myself.
 

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You could try to figure out what's important. By that I mean try asking yourself what a person thinks about in their final moments . Do you reckon they think, I wish I had another jet ski, a bigger house? Nope. Family and friends, that's it. Nothing else matters.

So, gardening is nice but not important. Rocky relationships, you can only control what you do, it will be as it will be. Being concerned won't help.

Success is just a series of small successes. Do a bit each day but realise it doesn't really matter if it all gets done or is 'perfect' whatever the **** that is!
Yeah, that’s exactly what I need to do. I put up a couple of 8x4 boards in my garage today to organise vertical storage for my tools and gardening equipment, getting them off benches and the garage floor. It was a good effort and I enjoyed the task but I have to complete it. Like you say, seeing immediate progress helps heaps. Just need to push past the lack of motivation. Might need a few pipes myself.
Most importantly, nobody out there hits every target, performs maximally. You don't have to either. Give yourself a pass. Oh, Xmas is almost here too, traditionally a time for heightened anxiety. Perhaps what you're feeling is totally normal especially with the rocky family shit you've had this year.

You will get through it.
 

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You could try to figure out what's important. By that I mean try asking yourself what a person thinks about in their final moments . Do you reckon they think, I wish I had another jet ski, a bigger house? Nope. Family and friends, that's it. Nothing else matters.

So, gardening is nice but not important. Rocky relationships, you can only control what you do, it will be as it will be. Being concerned won't help.

Success is just a series of small successes. Do a bit each day but realise it doesn't really matter if it all gets done or is 'perfect' whatever the **** that is!Most importantly, nobody out there hits every target, performs maximally. You don't have to either. Give yourself a pass. Oh, Xmas is almost here too, traditionally a time for heightened anxiety. Perhaps what you're feeling is totally normal especially with the rocky family shit you've had this year.

You will get through it.
Thanks mate. You’re right of course. It really is just a lot of little things that compound so I best get compartmentalising, plus getting over my inherent perfectionism.
 

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all the best soupy, dont be too hard on yourself and dont let the self-loathing manifest. first xmas with your new addition. :)
 

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Thanks mate. You’re right of course. It really is just a lot of little things that compound so I best get compartmentalising, plus getting over my inherent perfectionism.
When we catch up for that beer we should put down on the discussion points 'perfectionism' ! I didn't even know it was a word😯
I know I've got some thoughts on it though. I have my own saying 'nothing has to be perfect in my world'. I must have said it hundreds of times. Sure makes things easier, targets are soooo much easier to reach!
 

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My 98 year old granddad had to go to hospital last night because of bad chest infection, couldn't have come at a worse time for the family the last couple of weeks have been real testing. (won't go into detail but someone you thought you knew and could trust turns out to be anything but and wanting nothing to do with them because of it).
 

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My 98 year old granddad had to go to hospital last night because of bad chest infection, couldn't have come at a worse time for the family the last couple of weeks have been real testing. (won't go into detail but someone you thought you knew and could trust turns out to be anything but and wanting nothing to do with them because of it).
I know what you mean! We've just had a coworker arrested in Perth. Procuring a child under the age of 16, possession of child pornography etc. Sick shit. You think you've got some idea about a person and then you discover they are garbage. Sorry about grand dad, 98s a great score. Hope he sparks up. 100s just around the corner.
 

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