I am pretty jacked (lol shameless plug) and am routinely groped by straight women, even in the work place.
Sometimes (if at an event with alcohol) it can go well beyond a grope of a trap, lover back, arse, or thigh and become harassment, which does make me uncomfortable, so I get what you're trying to say, but here is the kicker - I am in absolutely no danger. If 4 of these gals tried to r@pe me, they would have no chance ha. I could probably take 8. If I speak up and lay down some boundaries, I am left alone. Women are not offered that, and unless they hold a blackbelt, pepper spray, or a switchblade, they probably won't feel safe.
On the flip side sometimes I let them climb all over me to save them from my idiot straight mates. A sacrificial gay lamb!
Like I said, I get what you're saying here, but the situations are so different, and even if they sound the same, they couldn't be more different.