So, my (adopted) dad was as big a league player as any. He played until he was mid-late 30’s, won all the best and fairest trophies, Captain/coached the All Whites club team for years, played rep teams and then coached my All Whites team when I was a kid. He’s all of about 5’8” or so, but is built like a brickshithouse and played second row like Trevor Gillmeister, though he was very fast on his feet over short distances, too. He also has a background being a black belt judoka which he states helped his game tremendously (70’s/80’s).
As I’m not his biological son, I’m built the opposite. When I was young, I was skinny and relatively short, but extremely quick. Lots of rep athletics teams. I played until I was about 14 with dad as coach but one day he tapped me on the shoulder and said that my neck was too long and the way I played (think stature of a young cherry evans but scrawny with the giraffe neck, but my nickname was ‘the axe’) it was likely to snap.
I listened to him, took up basketball, and won a comp against all of my ‘superstar’ school mates by playing in a team full of B graders. I’ve always appreciated that tap, but I also appreciated that he let me play for as long as I did, and truly believe I got out at the right time as everyone was maturing and getting a lot stronger.
Fast forward and I’ve got my first son playing RL here in Toowoomba, and bloody well, too. He’s also a second rower playing against much bigger blokes. In his later teenage years, he snaps his arm twice over three years with more time recovering than playing. He was lucky... you don’t walk on your forearms. If that had been his legs, he wouldn’t be able to do all the things he can do now. The doctor said no more to him and he listened, even though he was on scout’s radars. I’m proud of him for that decision.
If my younger son desperately wants to play RL, I won’t stand in his way, but I’ll push for oztag or touch first. I’ll certainly be exposing to as many other team and solo sports first though in hope he doesn’t end up going towards playing league.
All sports have physical risks, but full contact sports like league are excessive IMO, especially these days.
Happy to answer further questions but at this stage I’ve waffled plenty and my Captain Morgan Black is calling my name ;)